WEEKLY BLOG
Valleys & Valleys & the Occasional Peaks: Navigating the Complex Trauma as an Adult Child Survivor of Parental Alienation
Welcome to a space of understanding and resilience, where the challenging path of being an adult child survivor of parental alienation is met with empathy and empowerment. If you are currently navigating the uncomfortable truth of parental alienation or have overcome its complexities, know that you are not alone. This blog serves as a safe haven for shared experiences, healing journeys, and the strength that emerges from navigating the intricate trauma of Parental Alienation. Let's embark on this empowering journey together.
Welcome to a space of understanding and resilience, where the challenging path of being an adult child survivor of parental alienation is met with empathy and empowerment. If you are currently navigating the uncomfortable truth of parental alienation or have overcome its complexities, know that you are not alone. This blog serves as a safe haven for shared experiences, healing journeys, and the strength that emerges from navigating the intricate trauma of Parental Alienation. Let's embark on this empowering journey together.
I extend heartfelt acknowledgment to all those living this experience. You are seen, and my heart holds space for you. Recognizing that each individual may be at different stages in their healing timeline, I urge you not to lose hope. If feelings of being lost, stuck, or alone overwhelm you, understand that a community of survivors is actively raising their voices against parental alienation. Online support groups, coaching forums, and activism routes aimed at influencing family courts are avenues where like-minded individuals connect.
To figure out where you would like to go with your experience lean into the emotions that come up for you. Write it out, have “tea” with them. Ask your emotions why they are visiting. “Anger, I feel you in my stomach and the burning behind my eyes, I don’t want you to make me sick by staying too long. Anger, can you turn into strength to help me fight this battle and not fight myself or others. Sadness, I feel you in my chest as a crushing weight can you please turn my heart to love and guide me to a supportive loving team who helps me see the light in the dark?” Something along those lines.
A few self care activities I practice to stay above are, placing a hand over my heart in a quiet space I repeat the words I love you (Chantel) “Insert your own name” over and over for 10 minutes once a day. Practicing present moment awareness by being right here right now in this. I like to repeat a phrase that goes like “I am in the right place doing the right things with the right people.” I like to search out healers and other healing modalities like healing touch, massage therapy, acupuncturists, Chinese medicine doctors, sound therapists, reflexology, Indian head massage, naturopathic doctors, psychologists, read books on self care and healing. If anyone comes along my path and says go to this person go read this book, watch this show or documentary I will say yes and do it as I believe all humans are reflections of me and they are trying to show me something about myself that can help me move forward. Sometimes the burden of bearing this pain is much too big for my human self so I have found something bigger outside of myself. I would definitely recommend finding a source higher than yourself to guide and support you. Whatever works and aligns with your spirit. For myself I have found Jesus even when I grew up without any influence of any religion. Jesus is a great teacher in forgiveness and for me that was a big part of my healing. Keep a vision, keep a plan and keep rising above.
You may feel like you’ve been denied your reality and it’s a bit crazy making. You know your truth and no one can take that away. The division that was made by the alienator stops now. Through the valleys and peaks, we are ready to unite and put an end to this human rights abuse.
This week’s blog post was submitted by fellow adult child survivor of parental alienation, Chantel.
Hi my name is Chantel. As a once-alienated child, I intimately understand the complexities of parental alienation, having spent over 28 years separated from my father before reuniting. Now, navigating the painful reality of being alienated from my own children for the past 2 years, I share my personal journey to shed light on this emotional struggle. Join me in exploring the profound impact of parental alienation and the ongoing quest for understanding and healing.
Listen to Chantel’s remarkable story here: